If you use the contact form below, I will get back to you as soon as possible, usually within 24 hours.
I also have a web page at Relational Spaces.
Can we talk by phone before we first meet?
Yes, it is a good idea to have a brief phone conversation first, to discuss your situation and to understand whether I might be able to help.
Before doing that, I always want to make sure I have time set aside, phone charged up, and a quiet place for a private discussion. So please either use the email contact form, or phone me on 07817 427780 to arrange a time to talk. You are quite likely to get my voicemail, and if you leave me a message, I will get back to you as quickly as I can.
How many sessions will we need?
This varies a lot. Typical might be 12 sessions. However, with goodwill, many problems can be resolved more quickly. On the other hand, some couples like to keep coming, to have a safe space for discussion and exploration, for a longer time, perhaps up to a year. I always encourage couples to think about what needs to change, so that we can be aiming towards where they are able to resolve problems on their own.
What kind of problems do you typically work with?
I specialise in relationship difficulties. See my couple counselling page for more detailed discussion of some typical problems.
I also have a particular interest in working with men who are "nice guys" - people pleasers who find it difficult to ask for what they need in relationships, and tend to feel frustrated.
Can I see you individually?
Yes, if the problem is a relationship problem. For example, if you have a pattern of repeatedly getting into bad relationships of the same kind, or you want space to reflect on why a relationship ended and what you can learn from it. Sometimes people want counselling individually if they feel they are in an abusive relationship but are not sure, or if they have recently managed to leave one.
Also, if you are currently in a relationship and your partner is not willing to attend.
Can we get counselling via phone or the internet?
I don’t do counselling remotely, by phone or internet, for several reasons. I have concerns about the security and privacy of it, and I have concerns about what happens if the link fails in the middle of an intense emotional session. Also I need to be able to see and make eye contact with two people, and see their interaction with each other, and I have not found a technology that allows for this.