Marriage preparation
I offer marriage preparation consultation. This is a structured process for couples who are considering a long-term commitment to each other. It is to help you explore areas that need to be thought about, and to avoid future problems. I will not be giving you a "verdict" as in yes or no, to whether you should tie the knot! I will be pointing you towards areas that need clarification that you may have avoided discussing with each other.
This is for one couple only -- it is not a group process. Unlike many of the marriage preparation courses out there, this is not a church or religious-based process.
It is also not a substitute for couples counselling. If you are already having big problems or conflicts that worry you, I may suggest that some counselling would be more appropriate. Marriage preparation is more like an MOT check, not a major overhaul.
How it works
Step 1: I will send you an initial short questionnaire intended to get the basic life information, such as your ages and details of any existing children.
After that, step 2 is a more detailed questionnaire about typical areas where problems can arise. such as money, in-laws, children (actual or planned), sex, cultural differences, arguments, and so on. I will tailor this based on the information from step 1.
Finally, we will have four one-hour sessions where we discuss together what you've said, and I will ask you questions and perhaps ask you to do some exercises. At the moment, this will need to be on Zoom.
You can, of course, stop at any point.
Charges and practicalities
Step 1, the basic questionnaire, is free. Step 2, where I read your more detailed answers, costs £50. I encourage you to get good value by digging deep with your answers. Then the one-hour sessions cost £60 each. We can discuss the timing of these - they could be weekly, or every two weeks, for example.
Everything we discuss will be confidential.
